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Don’t Let the Old Man In: A Doctor’s Flying Adventure and the Fight Against Growing Old

Don’t Let the Old Man In: A Flying Adventure From a Desert Clinic to My Seventies

From a Desert Clinic to a Cockpit in the Clouds

In mid‑1973, I was a young doctor with more enthusiasm than experience — and probably more courage than common sense. I had just opened my medical practice in McCamey, a tiny oil town tucked into the arid desert of West Texas. The town was so small that even the tumbleweeds looked bored.

They gave me free use of a fully equipped clinic and a $2,000 monthly stipend, which felt like a king’s ransom to a young fella still figuring out how to keep the lights on. The only catch? I had a temporary Texas medical license and still needed to pass the state board exam. Nothing like a little pressure to keep a man humble.

Meeting Dr. Kaj Turula

One day, out of nowhere, I got a call from a physician named Dr. Kaj Turula, newly arrived in Kermit, Texas. He said he was studying for the Texas board exam and asked if we could review together.

Later I learned he was from Finland, had practiced in Puerto Rico, and spoke five languages — Finnish, Spanish, German, French, and English. Meanwhile, I spoke English… and even that depended on how much sleep I’d had.

Kaj started calling me “Amigo” or “Lorenzo,” and every weekend he’d drive to McCamey so we could study. We took the exam together — and by some miracle (and probably his influence), we both passed.

My Flying Venture

A few months later, Kaj called again. This time he said, “Amigo, I’m a licensed pilot. Want to learn how to fly?”

Now, I was young, adventurous, and apparently allergic to asking my wife Edith for permission. So I said yes.

Kaj rented a plane in Midland, about 50 miles away. We met on a perfect Texas morning — blue sky, no wind, the kind of day that makes you believe you’re invincible. He briefed me on the flight plan, which involved tuning into directional frequencies. No GPS back then. Just radios, maps, and prayers.

He walked me through the pre‑flight check, step by step. Then we taxied to the runway and lifted into the sky. Once we reached altitude, he explained the controls — the yoke, the roll, the pitch — and then handed the plane over to me.

I remember thinking, This is easier than driving a car. Of course, that was before I learned about sudden weather changes, equipment malfunctions, and the small detail that you can’t pull over in the sky.

After my third flight, Edith sat me down and said, “Laurence, I don’t want to raise our kids alone.” That was her gentle way of saying, “Stop being a knucklehead.” And she was right. So my flying adventure ended… at least for a while.

Fast‑Forward to My Seventies

Decades later, in my mid‑seventies, I learned about Dr Condrad R. Zapanta, a fellow UERM meidical  alumni — an octogenarian — who was still flying his own plane. I interviewed by him through email exchange for a video and shared my little flying story. He wrote back to me and said:

“Why don’t you take more lessons and get your license?”

I laughed and said, “At my age? I don’t think that’s a good idea.”

He replied, “I started when I was about 51 in 1997.” Lately he told me, “I’m 85 now and and have owned 4 aircrafts and still flying.” He is instrument rated and just passed his flight physical.”

That hit me like a gentle slap from the universe.

Don’t Let the Old Man In
Dr Condrad R. Zapanta in his mid eighties stills flies his plane

“Don’t Let the Old Man In”

It reminded me of Clint Eastwood’s famous line: “I don’t let the old man in.”

Eastwood shared this with Toby Keith while riding a golf cart together. Keith was so inspired he wrote the song Don’t Let the Old Man In, which Eastwood later used in his movie The Mule.

The message is simple: Aging is inevitable. Growing old is optional.

What “The Old Man” Represents

  • Complacency — that voice saying, “Slow down, you’ve done enough.”
  • Mental fatigue — the whisper of doubt, regret, or “you’re too old for that.”
  • Passive acceptance — waiting for decline instead of resisting it.

The Core Philosophy

  • Stay busy — meaningful routines keep the mind sharp.
  • Maintain attitude — vitality is a choice, not a birthday.
  • Keep learning — curiosity is the antidote to aging.

What It Means Day to Day

  • Stay mentally engaged — projects, goals, new skills.
  • Keep moving physically — motion is medicine.
  • Reject the victim mindset — age is not an excuse.

A Message From an Old Fella Who’s Been Through the Ringer

If there’s one thing life has taught me — from a desert clinic to a cockpit to my seventies — it’s this:

Aging is inevitable. Growing old is optional.

I’ve been blessed, humbled, corrected, redirected, and occasionally scolded (mostly by Edith). But I’m still here, still learning, still laughing at myself, and still trying not to let the old man in.

Aging with Humor, Health, and a Little Help from Tylenol

7 Signs You’re Getting Old- Self‑Deprecating Reflection on Aging and the “Medicare Generation

  • I’m aging, I’ve finally crossed the Biblical lifespan of three score and ten—plus one. At this point, I’m not sure whether to celebrate, pray, or ask for a refund. So the question  is: Do the Golden Years suck?

Well, aging is the natural consequence of living. Many complain about growing old, but let’s be honest—some of our friends never had the chance. They took a permanent leave of absence, six feet under or in an urn. So if you’re still here grumbling about your knees, congratulations—you’re one of the lucky ones.

Aging humor
Polite ways to say you’re getting OLD

🧠 The Fear of Aging (Yes, There’s a Name for It)

In our society, we’re brainwashed early to believe youth, good looks, money, and material things equal happiness. This obsession has created a persistent fear of aging called gerascophobia.

But aging is a fact of life. If you live long enough, you will get old. The only way to avoid it is to die early—which, frankly, is a terrible retirement plan.

🎤 “Doc, These Golden Years Really Suck.”

When I was a young physician, an elderly gentleman told me, “Doc, these Golden Years really suck.”

Back then, I laughed. Now? I nod in agreement while reaching for my reading glasses, my joint supplements, and the heating pad I pretend is “just for comfort.”

You know you’re getting old when:

  • Conversations revolve around grandkids, medications, and “I used to do this and that.”
  • Getting out of bed requires a warm-up routine worthy of the Olympics.
  • The songs you loved are now sung by people who have retired—or died.
  • The mirror shows gray hair, thinning hair, missing hair, wrinkles, eye bags, and sagging skin that looks like it’s trying to relocate.
  • You forget where you placed things… or worse, where you hid them from yourself.
  • “Achy Breaky Heart” becomes “Achy Squeaky Joints.”
  • “Remembering what things used to cost. you’re finding that I do this so much now. Ice cream was $3.99 for a big size. Now? I’m lucky if I can find it under $7. And even though I don’t smoke anymore, when I was 18 and a no-good smoker, packs were $3 and change. They can be as much as $15 now.”

If that list made you uncomfortable, you might have a touch of gerascophobia.

⏳ When Life Was a Blur

Before retirement, life was a hectic routine—work, social media, church, alumni events, family time. Days flew by like a blur. Then one day I realized many folks older than me were passing away one after another. That’s when it hit me: I’m now part of the older generation.

I didn’t get a welcome party. Not even a membership card.

👵🏼 AI has this to say about “The “Golden Years of Life”:

“The Golden Years of Life” refers to a period of maximum happiness, prosperity, and achievement, often associated with the later years (roughly 50s-60s onward) characterized by contentment, wisdom, and fulfilling leisure. It is frequently viewed as a time for realizing long-held dreams and enjoying the fruits of a lifetime’s labor.

Key Aspects of the “Golden Years” in Life:

• The later, post-middle-age stage of life. It is viewed as a time for enjoying increased, high-quality leisure time, often following retirement.

• A “New Beginning”: Many view the 60s and beyond as a “golden jubilee” era, using it to begin new hobbies, passions, or careers.

• Deepened Connections: This stage is often defined by strong, long-lasting friendships and deeper, more meaningful social connections.

• Reflection and Contentment: A time to look back on accomplishments with pride and live with a sense of peace.

Really? Truth or fiction? Well it’s really all up to you.

💡 Advice for the Younger Generation

More does not necessarily mean better. Happiness isn’t measured by:

  • How big your house is
  • How many cars you have
  • How expensive your car is
  • How many letters follow your name

Jim Carrey said it best:

“I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dream of, so they will know that it’s not the answer.”

Let me paraphrase Scripture: “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and misses being happy?”

🎸 Learning Contentment (And Rediscovering My Guitars)

After joining the Medicare generation, I learned to be content with what I have. Retirement shrinks your income but expands your time. Suddenly, the desire for “more and more” fades.

I have ten guitars. Only after retirement did I finally have time to pick them up again. It feels refreshing not to be part of the rat race or to prove my self-worth.

🏃‍♂️ Keeping the Mind and Body Alive

John Adams said, “Old minds are like old horses; you must exercise them if you wish to keep them in working order.”

Retirement can be exciting. I learned how to build a website, manage it, and write blogs. YouTube became my university. I’ve written over 100 articles, reached readers in 106 countries, and gained over two thousand subscribers. I’m healthier now than when I retired—thanks to regular exercise and healthy eating with my wife Edith.

📌 Advice to Fellow Retirees

  • Nurture relationships — with your Maker, your family, and your circle of friends.
  • Invest in your health — your body and mind are God’s greatest gifts.
  • Learn something new daily — so you can be a blessing to others.

📜 A Psalm of Life (Longfellow)

Life is real! Life is earnest! And the grave is not its goal… Let us, then, be up and doing, With a heart for any fate; Still achieving, still pursuing, Learn to labor and to wait.

🌅 Afraid of Getting Old?

If you plan it well, these years may turn out to be the best time of your life.

“So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.” — Psalm 90:12

Your Fitness Doc

Dr Laurence T Gayao MD
Laurence T Gayao MD, DABFM, BCEM I For The Good Life